response to an Abandoned:
love X, you asked me:
"Is there no real love more? Or rather, no true love anymore?"
What we really understand but universally as 'true, real love' ..?
I believe that it means that it is love which remains steadfastly loyal and strong as in the first period. That one
setting everything all the time to do for the other maintains, as one has taken it once swore at the altar:
"In good times and bad, in sickness and health, poverty and wealth, till death us do part".
This is the ideal, which is a dogma in the major world religions.
In Christianity it is the commandment: "Thou shalt not commit adultery .
In Buddhism it is the creation of bad karma in the future if one imitates the love of another, in other words, coming back one day somehow turn into one.
is in strictly Islamic countries, even in part, the death penalty for adultery .
All these commandments have to have some background.
The background is that adultery usually great suffering among the destitute, and produced especially for children wards. This often results in a financial chaos. Turmoil in a family often created turmoil in others.
In earlier times it meant for women often fall into poverty, the work's not like today. In ancient times it lost the all-important breadwinner.
as 'weak woman', even to small children in tow, she was not particularly well suited to go hunting, gathering berries at best, what the herb does not just made bold, but really only tasty and vitamin-rich extra income was ...
Nowadays, at least this need by law mostly halted.
What remains is the nagging heartache, with some being done faster and some slower. The
depends in part because how happy they were in the past and how much one of this past still hangs, stuck-or.
It does so not so intentionally.
We all strive to hold pleasant experiences, and if these times are now set in the past, then we are drawn back like there to savor the memory of Vergangenein again. However
can this be affectionate nostalgia and a source of pain.
We can lose the beauty that each brings "Today" in itself, because we still persist in the vision of the past and therefore can not let go.
lies in letting go but one of the hidden key to coping.
Well, it has thus been found that this beatific love, contrary to our ideal, and the changing times and was subjected to as much as we grow old and die, once getting on in years and the complaints have stopped.
Can we let go of our ideal of the youthful love, even though she is so beautiful yet, and so with us today, Here and Now arrange that we are the only moment we actually have now-enjoy-able, and not lose?
This will be difficult for us, if the past was happier than the present moment, and yet it is such a difficult birth to a new life.
If we manage to islands of happiness to create as abandoned, this will even have the pleasant side effect of the ex, who finds us totally absorbed into the hobby, or even does not find, because we started out with your best friend, us "new" is responsible.
"Hey, you will be so, she has fun in the end they probably did not need me? You will probably do independent? "
would be very important if they were affectionate and somewhat dependent, since it will demonstrate strength and impressive.
The clearance of the results is the partner room to breathe and love time to grow and Wiedererblühen.
the loss of control over the secure treasure at home is the ex acknowledge with more respect and strive probably now even more, if still feelings there are.
And that seems to be the case with you.
I could imagine that you could make fullest this paper successfully.
Love,
A
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